A WEDDING GIFT

She married him today. At the end of the wedding party, her mother gave her a newly opened bank

savings passbook, with $1000 deposited in it.  

She told her, "My dear daughter, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your married life. Whenever something happy and memorable happens in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the amount. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with your husband. When you look back after many years, you will know how much happiness you've both shared.' 

She shared this with him after getting home. Both of them thought it was a great idea and couldn't wait to make the next deposit! This is what the passbook looked like after a while: - 

7Feb: $100, his first birthday celebration after marriage 

1 Mar: $300, she gets a salary raise 

20 Mar: $200, vacation 

15 Apr: $2000, She's pregnant! 

1 Jun: $1000, He gets the big promotion and so on...

However, as the years went by, they began fighting and arguing over trivial things. They didn't talk much.

They regretted that they had married the most nasty person in the world. There was no more love. 

One day she talked to her Mother. 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We have decided to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!' 

Her mother replied, 'Sure, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want, if you really can't stand it. 

But before that, do one thing remember the savings passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.' 

She agreed with her mother. So she went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. 

While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to her. Her eyes were filled with tears. 

She left and went home. When she got home, she handed the passbook to her hubby and asked him to spend the money before getting divorced. 

So the next day, he went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. While he was waiting, he took a look at the passbook record. He looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to him. His eyes were filled with tears. 

He left and went home. He gave the passbook back to her. She found a new deposit of $5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I realized how much I've loved you throughout all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.' They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back into the safe.

Marriage is not a game, it's not easy but it's beautiful. You will fight and argue, this is normal, because the both of you came from different background, different homes and you both were raised by different parents, beliefs and moral. So you cannot expect that everything you say will be accepted by your spouse without their opinion being tendered first. So before you give up, think back to the good times and to what brought you together in the first place.

Dedicated to all married couples.                                                             as received through whatsapp 

How sex can help you live longer

Sex feels fabulous at any age. But what's not as well known is that a regular roll in the hay can also add up to eight years to your life expectancy. Yes! You heard right. By burning some calories in the bedroom, you can add some more years to live.

Studies show that having sexual intercourse regularly improves hormone levels, heart health and brain power and revs up your immune system, so you can hold on to your youth while you enjoy yourself. Research shows that the more orgasms you have, the longer you can expect to live. Being bad was never so good, right?

Aim for orgasm  It's not just the amount of sex you're having that counts when it comes to adding years to your life - it is the quality, too. A study discovered that a powerful orgasm is equivalent to a shot of Valium, a drug that relieves bodily stress, and works as a good relaxant. Added to that, it can also increase the body's infection-fighting cells by up to 20%

Several studies have shown that happily married couples are likely to live longer than singles or those who are in negative relationships. Even more impressive is the fact that having regular orgasms make men twice as likely to live into old age as those who don't have sex, and women to live up to eight years longer. Also women who have two orgasms a week are up to 30% less likely to develop heart diseases. So, make the most of it and boost your orgasm potential by investing in a good sexual intercourse. Years added +08

Time to cuddle up Cuddling up to your partner isn't just an enjoyable aspect of good sex - it also helps to release the 'bonding hormone' Oxytocin, which has been linked to life expectancy. Research has found that Oxytocin can dramatically boost longevity. So, people who are in good relationships are less vulnerable to chronic diseases and even depression. So, make the most of it by cuddling up with your lover after sex. This will also add intimacy to your relationship. A sensual massage, lots of stroking and intimate touches will help you go a long way in keeping your relationship alive. Also, studies show that Oxytocin is produced in greater quantities with a familiar partner. Years added +07

Cook up a storm To enjoy good sex, it helps if you're in the mood - which is why brain chemicals are so important. A lack of desire is the result of a reduction in one of the four brain chemicals - Dopamine, Acetylcholine, GABA and Serotonin. To get them up to speed again, certain herbs and spices can also help.

For Dopamine, which enhances mood and confidence, try basil, black pepper, chillies, cumin, garlic, ginger and turmeric. Acetylcholine helps improve alertness and focus so try all-spice, basil, peppermint, sage and thyme. GABA, a natural anti-depressant, is found in alcohol, so just one or two glasses of red wine will do the trick. Serotonin boosts happiness and relaxation, so try turkey, bananas and chocolate. So, make the most of it by cooking up a light vegetable curry served with saffron rice to get you in the mood. Years added +10

Work up a sweat   Exercise helps keep you fit. It also improves circulation and muscle tone and staves off the ageing process. Good news is that sex provides almost all the same benefits as regular exercise, without having to hit the treadmill. It increases circulation and metabolism and burns about 30 calories for 20 minutes of reasonably active sex. That means in an hour you've burnt off a glass of wine or a couple of biscuits.

Middle-aged women who have weekly sex have been found to have twice the bone-protecting Oestrogen levels of those who don't. So, make the most of it by keeping sex fun by trying new positions. If you always do it in missionary, speed up your heart rate by going on top for a change. Years added +10

More, more, more! It really is a case of use it or lose it. And having sex at least once a week will keep your hormones, heart and brain in top condition. And the more you have, the better the benefits. Men who have sex three or more times a week reduce their risk of heart attack or stroke by 50%. It's largely a myth that sex can trigger heart attacks, but if you're worried, don't overdo the aerobics and you'll still get the benefit of powerful relaxation hormones. Regular sex releases 'feel good' Endorphins at any age, as well as easing stress. Years added +2

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5 health benefits of sex revealed & related articles

Sex is not just good but healthy too. Here are ways how beneficial sex can be to your health.

Helps keep the immune system highly active  Research has shown that People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against viruses, germs and other intruders. Researchers at university in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

Lowers blood pressure  There are mountains of data emerged in studies that say that there is a link between sex and blood pressure. One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically lowered systolic blood pressure. reduces Heart

Attack risk  Having an active sex life is beneficial for your heart. It not only raises your heart rate in a good way, but it also sex helps keep your oestrogen and testosterone levels in balance. When either one of those is low you begin to get problems, like osteoporosis and even heart disease. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely.

Improves women's bladder control  Doctors say that a strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, a condition that is will affect 30% of women at some point in their lives. Good sex is more like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. Having an orgasm causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.
Eases stress Touching and hugging can release the body's natural feel-good hormone. Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain's pleasure and reward system. Also, sex and intimacy can boost your self-esteem and happiness. Another important factor is that being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety.         http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/health-news/5-health-benefits-of-sex-revealed/articleshow/46652911.cms?utm_source=TOInewHP_TILwidget&utm_medium=ABtest&utm_campaign=TOInewHP                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Top 7 factors killing your sex drive                                                   

A reduced sex drive can be very frustrating and a number of problems, from depression to physical disorders, could be to blame. However, if you are bothered that decreased libido is affecting your relationship, there is some good news for you.

With some basic lifestyle changes and sexual techniques you can overcome these problems easily. At the same time, it is equally important to know the main factors that affect your libido. From physiological to psychological factors, here are some common sex-drive killers.

Erectile dysfunctions: Poorly understood and mismanaged, erectile dysfunction is another major factor that can affect your sex drive. According to reports, this condition is very common in men above the age of 40 but only a few cases come to light. This is primarily due to lack of knowledge as most people believe that it is a psychological rather than a physiological condition that cannot be treated. However, on the contrary, the condition is eminently curable with the help of drugs and medicinal procedures.

Menopause: In women, physical changes like menopause can affect physical intimacy and sexual drive. Although, menopause itself does not affect your ability to have sex, the reduced hormone levels may cause certain discomforts like vaginal dryness and pain during sex. This may also prolong your period to reach an orgasm.

Depression: If you are constantly popping antidepressant pills or if you are suffering from signs of clinical depression, it's no wonder that your sex life is suffering a major set-back. One of the major hallmarks of depression is reduced interest in sex. Be aware that both depression and antidepressant pills can affect your libido. Thus, it is advisable to treat the condition at the earliest.

Less sleep: A consistent sleep pattern is another vital factor for boosting your sex life. In case you depend only on weekends to catch up on your sleep, you don't have to search for any other cause for your decreased libido. There is a direct connection between sleeplessness and reduced sexual urge. Researchers believe that fewer sleeping hours can trigger the production of the stress hormone cortisol which plays a major role in reducing the testosterone levels.

Parenting: It's true that parenting is a tough job and can even affect your physical and mental health at times. But, did you know that it can even affect your sex life? No, we are not talking at a hormonal level. It is just the fact that while taking care of your baby, you often don't find the zeal, time or energy to get intimate with your partner. Try hiring a part-time caretaker or plan for some "quickies" during your baby's nap time.

Excessive alcohol consumption: Excessive alcoholic consumption is linked to impotence and infertility in both the sexes. It is true that a few sips of your favorite wine helps you open up and puts you in the mood to indulge but it can also freeze your sex drive at the same time. Long term overuse of alcohol, in particular, affects the nervous system and interferes with impulses between the pituitary glands in the brain and the genitals. In fact, recent clinical researches have indicated that alcohol abuse can cause permanent damage to the nerves in the penis thereby leading to impotence. So, as long as you practice moderation, you can protect yourself from such conditions.

Relationship problems: Marital or relationship problems like lack of trust and proper communication can act as major hindrance to experiencing enjoyable and satisfying sex. Women, in particular, are closely tuned to their emotional sides at the time of sexual intimacy. Hence, it is vital to solve all issues like infidelity, unsolved conflicts or fight and poor connection to steer your sex life in the right direction. For this, you can even seek professional counseling to sort out any personal indifference between you and your partner.http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/health-news/Top-7-factors-killing-your-sex-drive/articleshow/9943254.cms