Today Devi is telling us how to listen - "Follow these five steps whenever you see, read or listen to anything."
STEP 1 : The first step is Filtration. When we are listening to somebody talking, watching TV or getting information in any other way, we should understand and analyse it before we allow it to take root in our minds. For example, if somebody says - "You are a very nice person" or "You are wonderful," we must ask ourselves why they are saying this. We should take a moment to think - "Have I helped him at any time? Is my association beneficial to him in any way?" We may remember several incidents to support this. After this we can allow that statement to enter our minds, but we must not take it egoistically. Likewise, if somebody says - "You are so high and mighty. I have never seen such a great snob as you," we should not react impulsively. We should first analyse that statement in our minds - "Have I done anything to offend him? Have I knowingly or unknowingly hurt him in any way?" If we remember an instance where we have done something that annoyed him, we should immediately apologise. If we can't think of any reason for his statement, we should apologise anyway by saying - "I'm sorry. I must have hurt you in some way though I don't know how. Whatever I did, it was not intentional. Please forgive me." This is very essential. Otherwise, that relationship will enter a love-hate mode. Then we will unnecessarily occupy that person's mental space and he will occupy ours.
So, we must be very careful when we allocate mental space to any information. We should never allow anything to occupy space in our minds without filtering it first with our faculty of discrimination. Just as we filter tea to remove tea leaves and coffee to remove cream, we must filter all inputs to screen out unnecessary or harmful information. Till we have done this, we should not react to the information and we should not accept or assimilate it. If we look at enlightened beings, they listen to everything we have to say first and then respond appropriately to it. Once we cultivate this awareness, we will automatically filter all information even if it comes to us at very high speed.
STEP 2 : The second step is Segregation. Once you filter the information and decide to let it in, we must segregate it immediately into three categories (i) Divine information pertaining to God or Adidaivika (ii) Spiritual information pertaining to our soul or Adhyatmika (iii) Transactional information pertaining to the outside world or Adibhoutika.
We are responsible and answerable in all these three spheres. So, this mental segregation should happen instantaneously, in nano seconds. For example, if somebody tells us that a temple is beautiful and we should visit it, it is Adidaivika. If they ask us to attend a satsang, it is Adhyatmika. If they talk about a movie, hotel or shopping, it is Adibhoutika. If we do not segregate information in this way it is like storing salt in the sugar container or chillies in the mustard container. All our priorities in life get mixed up and our time gets frittered away in frivolous pursuits instead of being focussed on the key issues. We get pulled away from our soul. Then Devi says - "You will lose your peace, contentment and prosperity in life." If somebody is talking ill about another person on the phone, we should immediately say - "Sorry, I'm not interested," and cut the call. We must filter, segregate and reject. We should never listen to such garbage. Nowadays, we don't have much time to interact directly with people. So, such information comes to us more through TV or over the phone. We must give up gossip of all kinds and engage ourselves only in God-sip. Let us chant the divine name of Devi or write namasmarana [the holy name]. If we allow our mind to dwell on negative things it is like performing the abhisheka of Lord Vishnu, who is the embodiment of our soul, with dirty, stinking water. We should never pollute our Swadishthana Chakra. If we do, we are disarming and disabling Vishnu who is enthroned there with Devi Rakini.
Seggregation of information enhances our serenity, contentment and inner power. Today, when we get our priorities wrong and make decisions which backfire, we feel mentally defeated. We feel drained of mental strength and will power. Why? We have not learnt to filter and segregate. If we do, the Vishnu Shakti and Devi Shakti in us will never get depleted. Problems and troubles will never attack us.
STEP 3 : The third step is Rejection or Assimilation. After filtering and segregating information, we filter it once more before deciding to assimilate it. We should ask ourselves - "Is this information useful to me in any way? Is it going to lead to my transformation?" If the answer is 'No', we should reject it outright saying - "No. I don't want this. I don't need this." Then, it will not enter our innermost core. Why is Devi going into such subtleties tonight? If we see or hear something bad, it gets engraved on our minds and continues to bother us and shatter our peace for a long time. For instance, if we see an accident on the road, we should pray for the victims and let it go. Just say - "If this occupies a permanent space in my mind, it will disturb me for days. I will not allow it to penetrate my inner core." The minute we make such a resolve or Sankalpa, even if that information has gone in, it will be ejected immediately without getting assimilated.
STEP 4 : Don't allow demons or asuras into your mind. If we find ourselves getting irritated or annoyed with somebody, it means that we have allowed their words to get into our inner most core without filtering or segregating them. If we do this, that information becomes an asura or demon in the mind, shattering our mental peace. It bombards us with doubts and suspicions. It triggers negative emotions like anger, comparison, jealousy, competition, greed, lust and lack of trust and confidence. So, if we find ourselves reacting negatively to anybody, it means that their offensive words have already turned into demons in us. So, we should immediately think - "I should not send this inside," and chant 'Om Vam'. At once, Lord Vishnu in our Swadishthana Chakra hits this demon on the head and kills it. At once we feel calm and composed. If we do not invoke Lord Vishnu to slay these demons in this way, we will be destabilised. Words can destabilise our mind in nano seconds. That is the secret. We not only survive on our soul energy, we also survive by the mind. Our mind rules and controls the state of our existence. If the mind is intensely unhappy, we feel that we don't even want to live anymore. That is why Devi tells us again and again - "What you hear directly affects your mind. Be very careful."
Those who remain calm even when others insult or scold them are called 'Sadhus'. So, when we come to spirituality, we should all become sadhus. This is what the culture of Sanathana Dharma teaches us - "No matter what anybody says to you, just pray 'May this person be happy'." When our elders heard bad news or provoking words, they would immediately nullify their negative vibrations by saying 'Shiva, Shiva', or 'Hara, Hara'. By filtering, segregating and rejecting, we should make our minds stable, able and capable. We should never allow ourselves to be shaken by situations and circumstances. It saps our stability, will power and resolution.
STEP 5 : Avoid Mediation. Don't get entangled in the fights of others. When people come to you with their differences, do not take sides or try to mediate unless it concerns you directly. Fights between siblings, spouses, relatives and friends are usually temporary in nature. Allow them to sort it out themselves. If we try to mediate, finally they unite together and lay all the blame on us. So, when we see two people or groups fighting with each other, we should pray for both of them. If they approach us directly, we should not try to judge or gauge anybody. We should simply say - "My Guru has taught me to pray for everybody. So, I will pray for you." Devi says - "Don't mediate. Meditate."
Now let us make a resolution or sankalpa - "I will not listen to unwanted information. I will not pollute my mind. I will not interfere with others. I will not lose my stability." Let us chant 'Om' for sometime.